How to stop controlling my husband

Food control is not necessarily a warning sign of abuse, but it could be a symptom. Skip navigation! Story from Sex. In the December 13 episode of Dan Savage's podcast Savage Lovecast , one listener called in to report a very specific problem with her boyfriend. She goes on to detail some habits that are a bit concerning. For instance, the caller describes herself as a healthy, active person, but her boyfriend frequently orders for her at restaurants, reminds her of the things she's eaten that day, and tells her to slow down or be careful if she's eating a big meal.

When did I surrender my autonomy? And what can you do to get your life back and possibly even have a chance at a happy marriage? Not every controlling relationship looks the same, though. Look through the signs listed below and make a note of the ones that stand out for you. You made plans of your own for the weekend, but he wants you to do something with him instead. As long as he can use your guilt to get what he wants from you, he will. If you make plans to spend time with anyone but him, you can almost count on him to come up with plans he made just for the two of you.

You say he wants to move back in — but try to discuss with him what a marriage really is, and trust yourself with your needs and those of your children. I left my husband last summer. We have three young children who live with me, but see their dad regularly. Things are cordial and he is financially supporting us. My husband is a hard worker but emotionally distant and can be blind to my needs and those of the children.

While I slept, my husband, Candelario, tiptoed to the fridge, quietly removed a two-litre of Pepsi and unscrewed the lid. He heard the ssss of the carbonation and thought of the pleasure that would soon be his. The fridge door hung open as he ran from the kitchen into the dining room. So I may have been a bit controlling, but I had good reasons for forcing my husband to give up pop. Candelario had a problem and needed help.